This question is a major topic in most moral arguments, and is very important in our society. This question alone can make a teenager's life miserable, or it can make people feel secure and self confident. But just because people take different perspectives on the matter, and choose different options, doesn't mean one is right and one is wrong. For some people, waiting until marriage is better. For others, marriage doesn't have to be a defining factor.
Sex is a powerful experience and it has the ability to create very intimate connections or very painful wounds. The amount of pain one goes through when losing the person they have made that connection with (whether it is through break-ups, separation, or death) is terrible and can be shattering for some individuals.Those who have gone through that loss, or have witnessed loved ones suffering it, saw Sex as something that needed to be regulated in order to protect those individuals from experiencing that pain. Therefore, Sex after marriage enabled to lower the chances of loss in a sexual relationship.
Because Sex was so powerful it was also understood to be an evil thing that tempted men (and women) away from the correct path. It was seen as something that needed to be restricted. By only having one partner for life (your wife/husband), it considerable reduces the amount of sex one has overall. (due to loss of interest of the same thing over and over) And lets not forget how men viewed their sex liquid as something that needed to be conserved...
Sex after marriage also reduces the likely hood of getting a sexually transmitted disease and it also makes sure that no surprise babies come along when one is in an unstable position to raise a child. (Like High School)
However, waiting until marriage rejects the people who are naturally more "loving" and those who find sex as an activity that gives them and their partner a pleasurable experience. It also rejects the people who want to have sex within a relationship as a form of intamacy. Some people are ready for sex earlier then others---but not nesseccarily ready for marraige.
Those who support marriage support it in ways as a healty relationship and for young people to make their own choice Even if it means to have to learn the hard way. The pop culture of "hooking up" is also part of this catagory--but I do not have much knowledge about this other then it involves two strangers haing sex for no other reason then they were both kinky and they thought the other was hot. Which i honestly have a hard time understanding and would be very open to somebody explaining their perspective to me. [Please comment]
I write this post in my own perspectives, meaning my perspective is actually both. I regularly change my mind on what I think is right for me, and I would never judge somebody harshly because they choose differently from my current perspective. I honestly wish that society could support and accept both in a healthy perspective of choice, rather then black and white.
For additional reading on alternative sex perspectives, i found this amazing article about dutch sex culture... http://healthland.time.com/2011/11/14/mind-reading-what-we-can-learn-from-the-dutch-about-teen-sex/
I have your same viewpoint on this subject! I really cannot decide what is right for me either, and I definitely do not judge others based on what they decide. I feel that in today's world, people have become a lot more accepting of sex before marriage. I almost feel like it is expected that people have sex before marriage. I have heard many people debate this issue, and I can see both sides of the argument. I definitely don't think sex is something to be taken lightly, though, because I agree with what you wrote about how it can be an extremely painful thing to lose the person you've had that connection with.
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