Does marriage come with a price? Maybe you will never think about this question in the US. Because in US, more people think about marriage is that two people that love each other and want to start a family together, and grow old together. Less people will think about the financial part of a marriage, such as how wealthy is the groom, does he own a house, etc. However, in China, the concept of marriage is totally different. Most people will first or only consider the financial part of a marriage instead of love. Lots of girls in China will choose someone is wealthy instead of someone they love. Even more, they all believe choose someone is wealthy rather than choose someone they love is the right thing to do. The subject position is that you should find someone wealthy to marry not someone you love.
Marriage in China now is more like a tradeoff between money and mating. The condition of men for women is not if he is smart or funny, or love you. Is that whether he have his own houses or apartment, whether he have a well paying job, or whether he can afford everything you want. If you go out with a girl in China, the first question they might ask you is that how much you made every month. In China, marriage is no longer about love, is becoming a business of mating. Because of this issue, more and more girls cannot find a husband, and more and more men cannot find a wife. Some women rather become a mistress of some rich guy than get married.
The reason of this issue happing in Chinese society is because the gap between the rich and poor is too big. Also, the self-value the of the Chinese women and men are too high. Because in China, people think that marriage will decided the happiness of the rest of one's life, and money is directly affecting the happiness in a marriage, so a successful marriage is a marriage with a lot cash in it. Also, lots of people in China doesn't think about earning, they think about deserving. Women think they deserve a good husband with money and assets, and men think they deserve a good wife with hot body and good personality. Because of that, they all think they deserve better.
I found this topic very interesting since most Americans don't know other definitions and values to marriage in other cultures. This can also relate to a lot of Chinese students wanting to do well in school and get a well paying job, in hopes that they will get a good wife in the future, rather than living alone and not mating. This is somewhat relatable to the science/religion discussion in class because different countries have different cultures and different values, showing how Americans often marry for love and sharing their lives together, and the Chinese marry for wealth, success, and mating.
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